Seasonal musings.

Here’s something I posted on Facebook yesterday, which I thought I’d share with you, along with a photographic seasonal greeting.

Audrey, Rhonda and I would like to wish you and yours the very hippiest and most preposterous new year…oh, wait, I mean…

…you know what, that’ll do.

I’d like to wish all the people I disagree with a very Merry Christmas.

To be honest, there aren’t too many people who I agree with on EVERYTHING, I’m way too much of an argumentative bastard for that, but there are some friends with whom I disagree on a more fundamental level than why I’m right that Genesis are shit, or why it’s bloody obvious NOBODY should put anchovies on pizza.

It’s often the case that friendships, alliances and relationships are impacted by differences of opinion on religion, politics, sex, social issues, sports, gender identity/equality and just about anything else we’re capable of being offended about; but the last couple of years or so have tested those bonds of friendship to breaking point and in some cases those relationships haven’t survived.

Which is very sad and can only go further to separate us into little bubbles of one-sided information and prejudice, a self-perpetuating cycle of distrust and suspicion which only makes any future reconciliation that much more difficult.

This is doubly true in a world where a total stranger from the other side of the country might pick a fight with you on the internet for no reason other than you put a cross in a slightly different place on a piece of paper…or they may just be an asshole, of course.

So although I am eternally grateful for the old, lasting friendships which have coloured my view of humanity since childhood, I’m increasingly appreciative of those of you who I may have only known a relatively short time and who stick with me, despite (or because of) our differing views and opinions.
Because it is only with that balance and continual questioning of the “accepted facts” in our own personal universe, that can help us process any opposing worldview and move toward a more peaceful understanding of each other.

So thanks again to those of you who go the extra mile to remain my friend, I wouldn’t be without any of you.

Have a great Christmas and may 2019 be awesome in all the ways that make you happy in your world, just as long as it isn’t at the expense of someone else in theirs.

Peace.
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The best day.

This arrived this evening, following an unexpected phone call from our solicitor.

{Copied from my Facebook post earlier this evening, I’m too…everything…to type a separate post}

There are no words to express how overjoyed we are to have received this e-mail.

I am just as unable to articulate how grateful I am to all of you wonderful people; who supported us, donated to the GoFundMe campaign, helped keep us sane and shared our outrage at the blatant profiteering by the UKBA and Home Office during this unbelievably stressful and grueling couple of months.

Thank you, you have all been amazing, we appreciate it more than you will ever know.

Now we embark on a new, TEN YEAR route to family permanence, with renewals of these visas coming every two and a half years until Rhonda and Audrey have spent a full decade legally residing in the UK, before we can apply for Indefinite Leave To Remain and finally break free of the bureaucratic nightmare that is the British immigration system.

*****

A side note:

Anyone who is still under the mistaken impression that “immigrants just turn up and get given a free house, a job and all the benefits they can scrounge” should take the time to find out the circumstances which prompted their arrival in our country and what sort of soul-destroying journey they had to make to get here.

Having been married to “an immigrant” for the past three and a half years, I can tell you that I have heard more misinformed bollocks and ignorant bigotry from people who should know better than I have in the rest of my life, so if you feel the urge to expound on variations on that theme, please do so a long way away from me and my (very relieved) family.

Thanks again to all of you who offered messages of support, it means a great deal to us all.

Peace.
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